The Wonders of Technology

Its surprising what technology can do for one. I manage to trash some very sensitive things via instant messenging today. Some how, having to talk to the other party about unhappy things without voice or face, makes things easier. I know, a lot of people do prefer settling disputes face-to-face, rather then in such a manner. Many will think its insincere, or rather, it complicates matters more when done that way. Strangely enough, it worked very well for both of girlfren and I.

Lets call her J. (hmm.. not another J.. seems like i've been haunted by bouts of Js recently.. hahha.. ) But anyway, we both spoke better via msn, typing out what we feel and how upsetting things has caused us to be. I guess, when you type something out, it makes one think first. Unlike through direct contact talk or meetings... somehow, one just blurt angry words, without thought, without tact. Thus, causing the issue to be worsen. Like what they always say, its almost impossible to eat one's own's words when its spoken.

It revolved around her being dishonest in the many conversations that we when through. I know I was mad with her about something, but I honestly can't tell what. But somehow, when I told her about that particular event that took place, it did unfold before me what exactly I was upset over. Maybe I did not want to explore that event and unrevel what I was really angry about. Talking about that matter really did brought me back to that moment in time, and I realise what was the exact reason why I was so mad about.

We chewed one aother up "politely" -- if there's such a thing as that. But, honestly, I'm impressed with how I manage it. What I said was a matter-of-fact statement. It was easier to see things when you take a back seat and analyse things as a third party.

J's a good fren that I've made early this year by chance at the club. She is a student and relatively young, however I do enjoy the many conversations that we share, and by nature, I do feel that she's a sweet and naive soul. However, sometimes, there's always a nagging thought that needs to be stamped out at the back of my mind.

It does sound weird, but its complex to explain or try to even describe what goes on in my mind. But, to cut the long story short, we did end off being frens, frens that further understood the other. Which felt great. And that horrible feeling I feel - its dissipated. I'm glad that I ventured out on that "confrontational" conversation... . it was tough, and it can be quite daunting, yes, even on messenger. But, I really think it was well worth the risk that I took.

To the many misunderstandings revolving your frens... I do always vote for venturing into clearing the air. No matter how big a misunderstanding is, its not worth losing a friendship over that.

To the millions of friendship out there -- KAM BEI -- and to the millions of misunderstandings, lets clear with a glass of bubblely, shall we.

CHEERS