It is Good to know indeed

My previous outbursts and grunts have caused a little unsettled feelings within me the past couple of days. I was worried - I could be the only person whose feeling that, and that mean.... GASP! Noooo.. it can't be.

An sms from a very close friend of mine reassured me that she's been lending a listening ear, sometimes, a shoulder to her friends who have recently tied the knot. The "guru"counselled that the 'predicament' -- if I have to insist calling it -- was just a usual matter.

To think that wedding is a wonderful, fairy tale and lovey-dovey. Do not be mistaken = alot of us ladies hope that will be the case. But in full honesty, think again. To have 2 very different people from different background and upbringing to be living together under the same roof, and to share house hold chores and to make all nitty gritty decisions together. Isn't a really easy thing to do. Especially when finances are so used to be managed by me and me alone before marriage. Its weird to have to discuss whether to pay out that portion of cash for something we really need - or not need, even though the dole belongs to me. And vice versa.

It is indeed not easy.

No wonder there are so many people wanting to spilt ways after 1 or 2 years of marriage. I guess, one has to understand the fundamentals of the difference in being married, and to stop comparing life being a swinging single. In each role, there are different expectations. Simple as that.

Having that clear as mud - it does make me feel better. At least i'm not the only one feeling that. Thank God!